We are Never Fully Healed and That’s Actually a Good Thing

June 15, 2024

Before I start, I want to ensure you know about the FREE webinar I am teaching with my teacher, Debra Silverman, on June 21st at 8:00 AM PT/11:00 AM ET. In this webinar, Debra and I will help you reveal the childhood wound that plays a role in your evolution toward your life purpose.  

This is a perfect time to talk about childhood wounds because, this week, we are moving from the intellectual world of Gemini to the deep emotional world of Cancer. The sign of Cancer speaks about childhood, motherhood, nourishment, emotional processing, connection with our mothers, and connection to the pain of the human condition.

My childhood wound is that I was not the most loved child in my home. Love was more naturally given to my younger brother. Even though my mother wanted me and loved me as her daughter, she did not love my personality. She told me a few times that I was probably switched at birth because she did not understand how I came to be so different from her. My father was too busy with his career and rarely paid attention to me.

Even today, as I am just about to celebrate my 51st birthday, this wound is still a part of my life. I am now more aware of it. I was able to heal it to some extent, but I also see how it is firmly imprinted in me and plays a significant role in my psychology and how I relate with others.

When I was a single woman, I used to be attracted to people who did not love me, as children are drawn to sweets. Even if there was a chance that these men would love me, I approached them with such a firm conviction that they wouldn’t that the opportunity for love went out of the window. Through a lot of hard self-work, I learned that for me, feeling unloved was a comfort zone, and this was why I continuously and unconsciously got myself into situations that made me feel unloved.

It is hard to admit that even after almost ten years of marriage to a loyal, committed, affectionate, caring, and loving man, I still don’t fully trust him. A part of me always worries that one day, he will wake up and realize that I am not who he thought I was and decide to leave me. These fears keep me in my comfort zone. Accepting that my husband truly loves me is not something I learned to do. Accepting love is not in my genes.

Recently, I learned that this wound not only influences my love life but also plays a role in my career fulfillment. In my childhood, I unconsciously created an equation that if my parents did not love me, I was unworthy of love. Feeling unworthy of love means not deserving of success or living my dream. Whenever something extraordinary happens, like when I was recently appointed as the 4E Certification Coordinator of Debra Silverman Astrology, I am on my toes to ensure the rug won’t be pulled from underneath me.

A remarkable woman I met this week said she wanted to help others but did not think she could because she was not healed yet.

There is no point in life when we are fully healed. Healing is a continual process. We heal one wound so we can go deeper. Some wounds will not heal fully. Self-growth means becoming more aware of our wounds and the role they play in our lives so that we can make better choices. I am still wounded, but my wound does not activate me so much anymore. I do not let it stop me from maintaining a healthy marriage or taking positions that are a dream come true.

I meet many people with similar wounds and fall in love with them for exactly who they are. This helps me love my wound. Another thing that helps me cultivate self-compassion is the understanding that my wound is playing an essential part in my evolution toward career fulfillment. Not feeling loved by my parents has motivated me to do my best to be loved in my career. I will discuss it in the free webinar next Friday, which happens to be the day of the Full Moon in Capricorn.

The sun will be in Cancer, asking us to connect with our emotions, childhood, home life, and family of origin.

The moon will be in Capricorn, asking us to find emotional well-being in our careers, public personas, and how we share our gifts with the world.

The Full Moon in Capricorn relates to the role of our childhood wounds in finding discipline to achieve career fulfillment. It also speaks about balancing our sensitivity with our discipline and balancing our home life with our career. Cancer and Capricorn are cardinal signs; they are at the core of our being. It’s challenging to feel fully content when these forces are not balanced.

This coming Full Moon in Capricorn, dedicate some time to contemplating your childhood wound and its role in your life. Does it hold you back from having a good relationship or the success you want? Or does it help you get where you want to be? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to share your comments here.

If you want to dive deeper and learn more about it, don’t forget to sign up for our free webinar here.   

Wishing you a wonderful week,

With love,


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More Astrological Information This Week

Events of the week: Sun, Mercury, and Venus moving from Gemini to Cancer. Capricorn Full Moon.

Major Aspects this week: Venus conjunct Sun. Neptune Square Sun. Saturn square Sun until June 19.

Strong Elements: a strong shift from air to water.  


  • Sunday, June 16 – Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Jupiter in Gemini. Moon in Libra. Mars in Taurus.
  • Monday, June 17, Moon enters Scorpio. Mercury and Venus enter Cancer.
  • Wednesday, June 19, Moon enters Sagittarius.
  • Thursday, June 20, Sun enters Cancer
  • Friday, June 21, Moon enters Capricorn. Full Moon in Capricorn.

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