If there is one thing that all Gemini’s I know have in common, it’s the desire to do thousands of things at any given moment.

Every minute of my waking hours, I want to be with my family, work, write, send a message to five different people, practice yoga, practice meditation, spend time or talk with friends, read a book, hike in nature, and the list goes on and on.

This is why life is so overwhelming for Geminis. We are constantly torn. There is never enough time for us. The truth is, there is always enough time, if we only accept the limitations of life and make our priorities right. The main challenge for Geminis is to focus.

Right now, my son is on a summer break, and I am spending much more time with him. When I surrender to it and give up on all other things I want to do while I am with him, I transform the struggle into delight.

One day during the break, I took my son to a picnic at Biltmore estate, a beautiful castle with spectacular gardens right here in Asheville. It was a lovely day. As always, once we entered the gate, I felt an enchanting magic. There is nothing I love more than spending time with my son in nature. With that, I started feeling a heavy icky feeling.

As I was washed by a huge wave of sadness and despair, my Gemini mind started an investigation to determine the cause of my sudden pain. Is it because I did not sleep well for two nights in a row? My challenges at work? The cold I’ve been dealing with for too long?

Gemini got me into my head, and wanted to take me away from my feelings. But I did not let it. I wanted to experience what I was feeling. I did not want to push it away.

While I was driving, my son sat quietly in the back seat, absorbed in his own world. I was allowing the sadness, heaviness, and pain to reside in me. It was hard and got harder and harder. I felt like I was falling into a terrifying abyss or being pulled into a black hole. I just stayed with the feeling.

By the time we arrived at the parking lot, the pain was gone. I could lightheartedly enjoy our sweet picnic at the stream. There was no struggle.

Venus enters Leo on Monday this week. It will stay there until October 8 due to a retrograde that will start later in July. This will bring lots of feelings of love and romance.

Dealing with my icky feelings, is a part of a love affair I recently started having… with life!

When we are in love, we want every piece of the other person. We want to be with them, touch them, be touched by them. We want to dive into them and let them dive into us. We love everything about them, even things that we would dislike in any other situation. When romance is in the air, the other person is perfect, just the way they are.

Having a love affair with life is willing to accept its ickiness, its heaviness, and its dark moments. We all have such moments, even if our life is great and we have much to be grateful for.

A love affair with life is being willing to look at life in the eyes and say, I want you, just the way you are. It’s making love with all of it, even with its darkest sides, with passion and excitement.

Gemini is considered to be more friendly than romantic, even though it is very flirtatious. But with Venus in Leo, it will be hard not to get affected.

Having a love affair with life, is not necessarily about having romantic love in our lives. It can be about having great true friendships, where we can open up, be authentic, and feel loved for who we are. It is about being our own best friends.

Our tendencies with friendships are similar to those we have in romantic relationships. If we are pleasers, we are pleasers in all our relationships. If we are intimate or romantic, we reach intimacy in and bring romance to all our relationships.

I love to send gifts to my friends. Even when it’s not their birthday. I love to make my friends feel loved and appreciated. But it took me time to get there. It took me years to understand what good friendship really was. I used to get into friendships with people who did not respect me and did not show me love.

Today I do not believe in tough love. When people love you, they should show it. You should feel loved.

Being in a love affair with life is about putting an end to the inner struggle. I’ve just gained two pounds. I am not happy about it, but I respond to it like I would want my best friends to react. I am not going to torture myself with strict diets. I am just going to love my body in its new form. I am going to make love with it. I am going to make love with life. I am going to keep transforming struggle into delight. 

This week ask yourself:

• Do I resist part of life or am I willing to have a love affair with all the aspects of it?
• What needs to be changed so that I start feeling flirtatious and romantically excited about life? (Remember it has nothing to do with having a romantic partner).
• Am I a good friend to myself? If not, what do I need to change to become better?
• Do I have good, healthy, supporting friendships? If not, how can I cultivate them?