New Moon in Capricorn – How to Dream Big and Avoid Suffering When Things Don’t Work Your Way

December 17, 2022

Last week I wrote about dreaming big. I’d like to start by thanking all of you who wrote me that the post helped you. It makes me happy to know that my words support you on your path.

During this week, Saturn, which is super strong in my chart, came to me and told me that dreaming big only brings disappointment and suffering. “Dream realistically”, it said.

Saturn rules Capricorn. This coming Wednesday, the sun moves from Sagittarius to Capricorn. On Thursday, there is a new moon in Capricorn, with no less than five planets in Capricorn, including sun, moon, Mercury, Venus, and Pluto.

Capricorn is very ambitious. It wants to succeed. It needs to succeed. And it is capable of success. Capricorn is here to lead, to manage, to boss everyone around, so that we can all work together for the greater good, for humanity, for the earth, for our evolution as a species.

Capricorn is also very pragmatic and realistic. When Capricorn sets goals for the coming year, it does not dream. It uses excel sheets. It bases its expectations on analysis of previous years’ results, and on the general market tendencies.

So what’s right? Should we dream big, or should we dream realistically?

The answer is both.

It is important to keep the broad vision of Sagittarius, that does not get into the details and does not care about practicality. It is also important to get into the details and see what’s practically possible, like a Capricorn.

I know it is confusing. We got so used to thinking it must be this or that. But in reality, it has to be both.

Big vision and small details, dreaming and practicality, must go hand in hand.

In Rising Appalachia’ song, Resilient, there is this beautiful line that says, “I’m a speck of dust and this world was made for me.”


Dreaming big does not brings disappointment. Craving does.

wanting and craving are not the same thing. simply wanting is a natural pursuit that focuses our energy. craving occurs when wanting deepens and becomes filled with tension and stress.

~yung pueblo

Finding the right measure of wanting is easier said than done.

I was a single woman during most of my thirties. There was nothing I wanted more than finding love. I truly believed I could never be happy without it.

On a meditation retreat at Spirit Rock, in a one-on-one session with the teacher Sharda Rogell, she told me that I might not find love. “You don’t know what life entails for you”, she said with kindness.

I was shaken to the core. I never thought there was a possibility that I would not find love. That I would live this life alone. It was the first time ever that I was struck with this possibility, and it felt like being hit by a lightning.

I came out of her room shaking. I took my favorite hiking trail to relax. I found a nice spot with a wooden deck under the shade of a huge tree. I lied down, stared at the bright blue sky above me, and processed what Sharda had told me. “If I never find love”, I thought, “my life would be just as it is now.”

I loved my life. I loved teaching, learning, and practicing. I was free to travel. I met wonderful people from all over the world. I had exciting romances and love affairs.

When I realized I might not find love, I started making the changes I wanted in my life on my own. For example, I hated living by myself, so I invited one of my best friends to move in with me.

I did not stop wanting love. I stopped believing that my happiness depended on love.

A year later came the love of my life.  

Today, whenever I find myself crashed with disappointment for not getting what I want, I ask myself “how would life look if I don’t get it?”. Then I remember that my life would be just as wonderful as it is now.

It’s not about suppressing pain and frustration. Not at all. If you do feel pain and frustration for not having what you want, allow yourself to feel it. Ask yourself, “how can I make my life wonderful, even if I don’t get what I want?”

Remember that it takes time to work with your conditioning. If you are used to craving, it will take time to remove the tension and go back to natural wanting.

During this week, ask yourself:

  1. What is my ambition? What do I want to achieve this year?
  2. Do I want it, or crave it? Do I see my happiness dependent on achieving it?
  3. If you feel that you can’t be happy without getting what you want, see how you can change your life to make yourself happy regardless of the results of your pursuit.
  4. If you still feel pain or frustration for not achieving your goals, don’t judge yourself. Feel the pain, feel the frustration, and go deeper to work with them.

Mars still retrogrades and will go direct on January 12, 2023. Mercury will start retrograding on December 29, 2022. We are already in the pre shadow phase of this retrograde. If things don’t work your way, you have these two to blame. 

Before we leave Sagittarius, I’d like to acknowledge the beauty of giving through the holiday season. Generosity is one of the best characteristics of Sagittarius. There is nothing more rewarding than giving out of love.

Wishing you a wonderful week,

With love,


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